From fearful to fearLess one phobia at a time

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New posts!

Hey everyone! Sorry for the long absence. Though I haven’t been posting, I have still been conquering and that’s exciting.  I have several new posts related to my fear of driving, and heights. Fear of drowning coming soon! Thanks for your patience!


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Okay, so I am taking a hiatus and will not be posting for a  while. I am too busy working like a mad woman and taking classes, for my own sanity I am discontinuing my posts for now. Thanks for the support.

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Where I want to drive and my dream destination

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Ah road trips, the quintessential adventuristic experience! I read in the news lately that RV sales are up, as people grow weary of being nickel and dimed by airline companies just to fly. What better way to see the great expanses of our country than by driving. There is a lot to see and many of us have dreamt of places only a trip on t open road can take us. Roads that wind through the Colorado mountains, down dusty trials to the Grand Canyon and scenic routes through California wine country, all call out to the cross-country motorists within us, and so I have compiled a small list of my driving dream destinations.

As a music enthusiast, I can’t wait to drive to all of concert hotspots of my favorite local and national artists. Especially the wide variety of music festivals that cater to camping on the concert grounds or arriving in groups.

As an avid foodie, I can’t wait to make my rounds anywhere celebrity chef Guy Fieri and the show Diners, Drive-Ins and Dives has been, and I have my eye on several local wineries and national food festivals such as the Vidalia Onion festival featured on the Food Network located in no other than Vidalia, Georgia!

At the top of my list is my dream driving destination. A vacation that revolves around driving and where only driving could take me. I have chosen an East Coast road trip through the states of Main, Vermont, New York, Pennsylvania and Rhode Island. I have my heart set on eating juicy red lobster and fresh blue crab, gawking at the Statue of Liberty and busting around Time Square. I also want to see a lighthouse up close, and try real Vermont maple syrup and dairy products!

Another trip would be sightseeing around Canada, its end of the Great Lakes, native culture and outdoors.

As for now, I will continue to concentrate on my driving efforts and dream away!

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What Driving Would Mean to Me

The Taj Mahal took a stunning 22 years to complete, Michelangelo’s masterpieces painted within the Sistine Chapel, a combined 8 years, and the Hoover Dam, 5 long years. All three of these undertakings were completed with a great deal of patience, a sense of urgency, and fortitude, not fear.

I have accepted the personal challenge of learning how to drive, with the hope of tapping into some of those same strengths.  I have been battling my fear of driving for years now, not wanting to face the anxiety it produced or the thoughts that I could hurt someone while doing it. This challenge has lent me the opportunity to change my way of thinking and see driving as a doable task and not just a hazard. Driving to me, would mean conquering one of my biggest fears, adding greater mobility and a new skill set to my life!  I plan on tackling it with my own sense of urgency, some serious patience and some inner strength!

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Counseling Hash

Remember my April Fear of Sex? I mentioned my decision to seek out a professional therapist in order to sort through this very large topic, and have since had my 1st session! I promised to divulge what a session is really like and am happy to report good results! It was not nearly as intimidating or embarrassing as I thought it was going to be. The room was well lit with a contemporary décor and we spend the hour filling out paper work and doing introductions. The counselor is super nice, professional and down to earth and made me feel relaxed and comfortable. I was free to ask her anything and this made filling out the family background and medical questions easier.  All in all it was a great experience and I plan to continue going!

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Car Purchase Considerations

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Owning any new kind of vehicle can be daunting territory even for the experienced driver. There are so many options to choose from when deciding how to pay for a new car and 100’s of makes and models to pick from. Whether it’s your first car, or your fifteenth, the details matter.

I have already started consulting family and friends as to their opinions on the best types of cars and what I should be looking for. I have compiled a list of must-dos and am currently shopping around for insurance and auto loan quotes. I have also enjoyed shopping online in order to narrow down color and size.

The ultimate questions are: whether to lease or borrow, buy privately or from a dealer, and whether to try out car auctions or steer clear of them. So far, opinions vary on all of these so I will continue gather information to make the best decision for me.

Since cars only depreciate in value, I am leaning toward used vs. new, borrowing vs. leasing and to maybe check out a car auction or two just for fun.

So far, I am loving Toyota, Honda, Volkswagen and Kia. I will also look at American models as there are many companies with great reputations.

As for kind and color? I’m thinking small, fuel efficient, and blue!