From fearful to fearLess one phobia at a time

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Where I want to drive and my dream destination

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Ah road trips, the quintessential adventuristic experience! I read in the news lately that RV sales are up, as people grow weary of being nickel and dimed by airline companies just to fly. What better way to see the great expanses of our country than by driving. There is a lot to see and many of us have dreamt of places only a trip on t open road can take us. Roads that wind through the Colorado mountains, down dusty trials to the Grand Canyon and scenic routes through California wine country, all call out to the cross-country motorists within us, and so I have compiled a small list of my driving dream destinations.

As a music enthusiast, I can’t wait to drive to all of concert hotspots of my favorite local and national artists. Especially the wide variety of music festivals that cater to camping on the concert grounds or arriving in groups.

As an avid foodie, I can’t wait to make my rounds anywhere celebrity chef Guy Fieri and the show Diners, Drive-Ins and Dives has been, and I have my eye on several local wineries and national food festivals such as the Vidalia Onion festival featured on the Food Network located in no other than Vidalia, Georgia!

At the top of my list is my dream driving destination. A vacation that revolves around driving and where only driving could take me. I have chosen an East Coast road trip through the states of Main, Vermont, New York, Pennsylvania and Rhode Island. I have my heart set on eating juicy red lobster and fresh blue crab, gawking at the Statue of Liberty and busting around Time Square. I also want to see a lighthouse up close, and try real Vermont maple syrup and dairy products!

Another trip would be sightseeing around Canada, its end of the Great Lakes, native culture and outdoors.

As for now, I will continue to concentrate on my driving efforts and dream away!


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What Driving Would Mean to Me

The Taj Mahal took a stunning 22 years to complete, Michelangelo’s masterpieces painted within the Sistine Chapel, a combined 8 years, and the Hoover Dam, 5 long years. All three of these undertakings were completed with a great deal of patience, a sense of urgency, and fortitude, not fear.

I have accepted the personal challenge of learning how to drive, with the hope of tapping into some of those same strengths.  I have been battling my fear of driving for years now, not wanting to face the anxiety it produced or the thoughts that I could hurt someone while doing it. This challenge has lent me the opportunity to change my way of thinking and see driving as a doable task and not just a hazard. Driving to me, would mean conquering one of my biggest fears, adding greater mobility and a new skill set to my life!  I plan on tackling it with my own sense of urgency, some serious patience and some inner strength!

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Car Purchase Considerations

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Owning any new kind of vehicle can be daunting territory even for the experienced driver. There are so many options to choose from when deciding how to pay for a new car and 100’s of makes and models to pick from. Whether it’s your first car, or your fifteenth, the details matter.

I have already started consulting family and friends as to their opinions on the best types of cars and what I should be looking for. I have compiled a list of must-dos and am currently shopping around for insurance and auto loan quotes. I have also enjoyed shopping online in order to narrow down color and size.

The ultimate questions are: whether to lease or borrow, buy privately or from a dealer, and whether to try out car auctions or steer clear of them. So far, opinions vary on all of these so I will continue gather information to make the best decision for me.

Since cars only depreciate in value, I am leaning toward used vs. new, borrowing vs. leasing and to maybe check out a car auction or two just for fun.

So far, I am loving Toyota, Honda, Volkswagen and Kia. I will also look at American models as there are many companies with great reputations.

As for kind and color? I’m thinking small, fuel efficient, and blue!

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My 1st Driving Lesson


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1 lesson down, and at least 3 more to go! Everyone’s still alive and in one piece, so I think I did great! I am doing private lessons with a local company until I get the basics down before driving a friend or family’s car. I got a rundown of the car’s mechanics, where everything is and the most important part, how to make it go and STOP!lol. The day’s lesson included: intersections (quiz: anyone know what a controlled stop is?), turns and emergency stops. I also learned how to adjust my mirrors (blind spots suck!) and tell when the car is using too many rpm’s and when it is on gas. I am happy that my instructor is a patient older gentlemen who has been working with student drivers for a long time. I am surprisingly optimistic and can’t wait until next time!

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Nebraska drivers

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I have heard that driving is an acquired skill and that noticing the exemplary drivers from the not-so-much ones can even be determined by geographical location. Take New York drivers for instance, they are known for driving too fast, ignoring yellow to red traffic warnings, and following too close behind other cars. Recent surveys by GMAC Insurance has even listed New York as having the worst driver’s in America.  Drivers from the Midwest faired the best, with Kansas having the highest score. Ask a Midwest driver about driving in their area, and you might get a different point of view. In my home state of Nebraska, we often refer to our neighboring Iowans as being some of the worst, although nationally they ranked among the best on the GMAC survey.

What have I noticed about driver’s in my city of Omaha? Both good and bad driving habits.

The bad: changing lanes without signaling; speeding up when someone needs to get over or merge into a lane; texting or talking while driving and following too close behind another car.

The good: Signaling when turning; slowing down and pulling over for emergency vehicles and stopping for student traffic and pedestrians.

Overall, Omaha drivers are courteous and the traffic scene is tame. I am sure when I am driving that I won’t be perfect, and every driver, no matter where in the country, has room to grow and learn.


Ah I’m driving!(education)

Driving seems like an everyday occurrence for most people, but for some, a seemingly automatic daily behavior can produce feelings of anxiousness, panic and uncertainty. I just happen to be one of them. For some time now, I have been able to by-pass those thoughts and avoid driving. In fact, I have been quite content using alternative forms of transportation. It is eco-friendly and I just happen to live in a pedestrian friendly neighborhood.

As of late however, I have been determined to let my disabling fears become a part of my past. My #2 Fear of Driving is already well on its way. I have passed my learner’s permit, and am now taking driver’s education classes in order to be a safe, competent driver. This will bring me one step closer to being a driver by the end of the summer. Am I nervous? YES! You just might see me handing out warning flyers to drivers that I am on the road! I’m sure the first astronauts in space felt the same way, but look where making the journey got them! Wish me luck!